In a recent argument of mine, the opposing viewpoint claimed that only “20% of men would rape women” and only a man who is sick in the head would do commit such an act. I believe that there are more men than we know who would commit rape if there were no consequences and that we as a society can teach our children that consequences should not be our only scruples.
This article mainly focuses on rape caused by a male, for these are more common than female rapists. Women will be the assumed victims in this article, but please keep in mind that men, though fewer, may experience the same treatment.
One factor that affects men is the current mindset that women are objects to win or buy. When women are presented as human beings, their emotional attributes become more relevant, similar to how some women worry about saying “no” to a date offer but the declined man may terrorize her because he is not getting what he wants. Many fairy tales fantasize a brave knight winning the princess’s heart. What does she get for her “happily ever after”? This idea is rarely elaborated. Rapists often ignore that a woman has the right to consent because they feel entitled to a woman’s body like an object.
Another idea that NEEDS to be elaborated is the emotional aspect of sexual relationships. Numerous boys and girls have had sex, only to realize how much of a disaster it is. They expect their first kiss or time to be perfect, let alone not awkward. Unfortunately, boys have the habit of leaving the girl right away after he gets what he wants. This is another example of how the girl’s emotions are ignored.
Though this may be surprising, people, especially young adolescents who will be entering the sexual world, need to understand the negative effects of rape and sexual harassment. A girl whose vagina is groped will continue to remember that feeling for the rest of her life. She will feel dirty and uncomfortable, to say the least. A girl who is told her breast size is too small because the commenter can’t see her cleavage will forever look at her chest and recollect that moment she was told she was not a woman, whether or not she acts upon it (by augmenting their look). A girl who was sexually assaulted by a suave boy will have a hard time trusting other people and herself. She may never feel comfortable having sex with someone she loves. Physical or emotional, these victims remember these moments. They are scarred mentally, if not physically. Their lives are filled with insecurities because some man felt entitled to their body.